Worthy of Her Trust: What You Need to Do to Rebuild Sexual Integrity and Win Her Back

Written by Stephen Arterburn and Jason B. Martinkus, with insights from Jason’s wife, Shelley, Worthy of Her Trust is directed primarily toward men who have damaged their marriages through pornography use, sexual addiction, affairs, secrecy, or repeated dishonesty. Its focus is not simply on asking for forgiveness, but on becoming a person whose consistent actions make rebuilding trust possible.

Jason Martinkus draws from his own experience repairing a marriage after sexual addiction. The book acknowledges a painful reality: a husband may feel remorseful and eager for the relationship to return to normal, while his wife may still feel unsafe, betrayed, and uncertain whether his words can be believed. Trust cannot be demanded or rushed. It must be earned through honesty, empathy, patience, accountability, and sustained behavioral change.

The authors encourage men to understand the impact of betrayal from their wives’ perspective. Recovery is not limited to stopping an unwanted behavior. It also involves accepting responsibility for the damage caused, answering difficult questions truthfully, respecting boundaries, and demonstrating integrity even when immediate reconciliation is not guaranteed.

Who may find this helpful? This resource is especially appropriate for a man who wants to rebuild his marriage after sexual betrayal and needs practical guidance about what that process requires. It can also be useful in mentoring, counseling, or a recovery group. The book may help couples name the difference between regret and trustworthy change. Its message is both challenging and hopeful: repairing a relationship is possible, but the betrayed spouse’s healing and safety must be taken seriously, and trust is rebuilt over time.